Remain in control, bring order back

When things don't make sense, when I've exhausted all energy on understanding, or when I become overwhelmed - I revert to something I know. In the past, I tended to spiral, allowing something troubling to take control of my time, energy and even my happiness. Over time I've learned to break away from something troubling, to do something productive instead. When I cannot make progress on something (for example homework, or trying to remember something), I halt all effort toward that thing, and I focus on something that makes sense. I clean, walk the dogs, read, meditate, lift weights or organize some of the clutter in my house.

Trial and error is how I have found a way to be healthy and constructive, instead of being self-destructive or just "spinning my tires".
In basic training we learn how to make a bed. This seems insignificant at the time and feels like something else we may do correctly but will certainly get gigged for. This simple act of discipline, and obedience brings order to our world of unknown. This act can still help us today. When things won't line up, or just don't make sense - revert to what has worked in the past (constructively) and try it again.
Cleaning is another thing that we learned and were forced to do. This is another tool that we can use when things outside of our control feel overwhelming. Remain in control, bring order back in some capacity. Start with something small like making the bed, then look to build on that progress.
(photo credit: The Art of Manliness)

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